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GET CLEAR AND TELL OTHERS ABOUT IT Four parts: 1) Cannot make a decision; 2) make problematic decisions; 3) how to use to find a partner or a mate; 4) know yourself. Reduce your stress about 90% by creating a clear, articulated outcome. This will help you stay focused and help you get what you want. . . Just Running Scared: Outer Security vs. Inner Security I keep thinking of the Roy Orbison song.... Just runnin' scared each place we go So afraid... [that I might not have enough time to get things done]. OOPS! I do not think that is how the original song went. . . Are you emotionally ready for the Holidays and family? It would be nice if we all could take off work between Thanksgiving and New Years. It might reduce some of the stress we feel that is created by shopping for gifts (I'm never stressed when shopping for myself), planning and executing meals, cards and letters, wrapping, hiding, parties, eating and drinking too much, running around like rats on speed while keeping a big smile, great attitude and sparkling personality. AND THEN... there is dealing with family members. AAAAGGGGHHHH! For some a better bet would be watching every horror movie ever made than to spend time with family members. The only way to get through the holidays is by professionally or self medicating. It is a sad commentary on our culture when the best time of the year becomes something we dread. And it is all brought on by us and the rules we impose on ourselves or others. . . WALT DISNEY: Strategies of Genius Walt Disney's ability to connect his innovative creativity with successful business strategy and popular appeal certainly qualifies him as a genius in the field of entertainment. In a way, Disney's chosen medium of expression, the animated film, characterizes the fundamental process of all genius: the ability to take something that exists in the imagination only and forge it into a physical existence that directly influences the experience of others in a positive way. . . Kilimanjaro Revisited I did not know many of you when I climbed Mt. Kilimanjaro in Africa. Here is a recount of the experience and it's connection to the Characteristics of Excellence. I recently did a series of talks for Microsoft. Here is what I delivered. I look at change as occurring in two different ways. One is the change that happens in our environment that forces us to change in response to it. The change is usually not planned for and it blind-sides the person caught in it. . . . Finding Your Values: One of the ways to find your values is to list all of the people who have qualities you admire. Write down their names to spur your memory. Take your time and reach back into your past. Record the qualities or traits you admire about the person. A quality is something that inspires you, such as being loyal, intelligent, adventurous, courageous, creative, truthful, and so on. Check on how many times you list the same quality. Chances are the characteristics you admire over and over again in others are values for yourself. What is important to you about these characteristics? . . . How you use your mind is the ONE thing that affects EVERYTHING else A world famous Broadway and Oscar winning movie star uses these techniques to become one of the most honored and sought after actors in the world, a mechanic found problems in cars when no one else could, a person was able to find large oil reserves in Oklahoma, a group of NLP students in Canada used Silva2000 techniques to make money in the US . . . Go from Stuck to Star-Studded! Do you ever wonder how some people effortlessly achieve phenomenal success in their personal and professional lives...while you must work harder - and longer - to achieve your potential? HOW YOUR BELIEFS AFFECT HOW MUCH MONEY YOU MAKE One of my favorite programs, believe it or not, is DEAL OR NO DEAL. For me, it is one of the most fascinating studies in human nature available anywhere (other than, perhaps, my own family). And one that plays out the money-belief scenario to a T. I have watched dozens of people. . . Is it the End or the Beginning?
Your Map of me IS only your Map of me Your brain is like a huge machine without an off switch. If you don’t give it something to do, it will come up with something all by itself. If you put someone in a deprivation tank where there is no outside experience, his/her brain will start generating internal experience. And it doesn’t care what it generates. You do, but it doesn’t. From day to day our brain takes in millions of bits of information and it has a way of categorizing it, sorting it, storing it and retrieving it. And the only way it can do that is through the experience that is already there. A Word to the Wise The following question was asked of Milton Erickson: Are you aware of the way in which you use your words? He replied: I certainly am, and I want to emphasize the importance of that awareness in all of you. In any work, you are going to use words to influence the psychological life of an individual today. Changing Places Growth takes place at different times for different people in different ways. People who are willing to voluntarily take risks will find exquisite resources in place for times when they are dealing with challenges. Playing it safe can feel good in the short term and can have devastating results in the long term. Creating Your Ideal Life Over the summer and fall I have been acutely aware of the lack of control people are having over the events in their lives. Among my observations is the distress the many people are suffering from is unnecessary. People are beginning to live way beyond their biological limits. The choices they are making indicate a lack of awareness, focus and clarity of purpose. Flow Why are some people weakened by stress, while others gain strength from it? Basically the answer is simple: those who know how to transform a hopeless situation into a new flow activity that can be controlled will be able to enjoy themselves and emerge stronger from the ordeal. There are three main steps that seem to be involved in such transformations: Getting Rid of the Old In case you haven't noticed, the world has changed. And as you look back over a lifetime of things, decisions, and activities you've probably changed also, maybe reluctantly, but we all change. Change – the interesting thing about it is that we can't stop it. Yet we hang onto things, ideas, thinking patterns, old ways of doing things to remind us of how not to move forward. Instead of Me Writing to You IInstead of me writing something to you this issue, I decided to let you read what you have been writing to me. I anticipate you will find this inspiring. Thank you for all of your feedback. "I began seeing positive changes immediately after you and I met and things just keep getting better and better". "I had no idea the change would be so profound." Making Decisions What is your motivation for making decisions? Is it Fear or Faith? There are many ways to look at these two states. We could be moving away from pain as opposed to moving towards pleasure; we could be playing it safe rather than taking risks; we could be focused on the glass half empty as opposed to the glass half full; we could be focused on what’s missing rather than what’s there; Mind Body Soul To win, whether you are running a race, going to school, working at a career, you must do more than simply take care of your physical body. You must fill your mind with positive thoughts and take care of your soul, which is to pay attention to what has heart and meaning. Money to Have What we experience about money is what we believe. The ultimate conflict comes from our culture. We grow up in a country where we are told that we have every opportunity to be and have anything we want. That is certainly true when we compare us to the rest of the world. Yet, the messages we get at home are.. More Change The true leader and the highly successful person anticipates change and prepares ahead of time by building their skills, resources and creativity as an ongoing process. The more unskilled a person is in behavioral flexibility, communication and creative thinking in today's changing world, the higher their stress level, the more ineffective they are, and the more likely they are to become victims of their own ineptness. NLP and Health The processes of NLP are designed to help resolve the conflict and help the person access their own natural healing ability. Most people are not motivated to do anything different until faced with the symptoms of ill health. The word "health" is a nominalization of the process of life. NLP Parenting These are just a few examples of how I have applied NLP to building a better working relationship with my children. Not only have I been able to establish and achieve the type of parenting style I want, I honestly enjoy parenting more. As for the family - we're doing quite well .. One Giant Leap II see opportunity in every circumstance. I embrace change knowing that the best outcome is the only outcome possible. I understand the relationship between the quality of my life and the quality of my communication. I realize how much easier it is to have a positive outlook, and how expectation plays such a critical role in achieving my outcomes. Most of all, I know what I want, and I know how to get it. Entrepreneurial Terror It is predicted that many people will eventually start their own businesses rather than go back into the corporations. Many will learn, as I did, that security comes from inside of you and your abilities, not from the HR department of Company Zero. The question to ask is, “Am I ready?” Perceptual Positions and Dealing with Loss People who suffer the loss of someone through sudden death experience the five stages of grief, denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. They also have the high need to know in detail what happened as if the knowing helps us to understand and make sense of something that doesn't make sense at all, and to heal. RELENTLESS CHANGE: Process then practice Where does your level of commitment lie? Is it near the high end of relentless pursuit of excellence or does it lie near to middle to lower end of the spectrum? If it's near the lower end of the spectrum, have you bought into someone else's idea of who you are and what you can accomplish.. Whatever happened to the Bionic Woman? Research shows mind influences your body. There are people who have used their mind and experienced significant healing. We may not be able to leap tall buildings with a single bound, however, we do have capabilities that are way under utilized. Our mind has the ability to do all sorts of incredible things. We just have to know how to do it. The State of Our Minds IIt's impossible to know how things will work out unless you plan it for it. We are living the life we created years ago through our thoughts, language, behavior and the choices we've made. It takes guts to do something new and different, to love unconditionally, to laugh when we want to cry, to cry when we're deeply hurt, to be human. Winds of Change I am clear on the fact that what I held as important was not very important after all. I am now completely exhausted physically and emotionally. However, I knew that I would never be the same. Climbing almost straight up in volcanic ash, I finally got the message: SURRENDER to things I cannot change, everything is perfect the way it is, whatever happens, it just doesn't matter and MY LIFE IS NOT HARD.
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